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The monstrous monsters


Sometimes monstrous behaviour by a wife could be a cry for help to be rescued from a monster.

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The middle-aged woman was speaking to her friend on the phone one day. “It’s been raining for days now and my husband seems very depressed by it.”

Her friend, slightly curious, asked what was making the husband so miserable.

“Well,” replied the wife, “He keeps standing by the window, staring. If he carries on doing this, I’m going to have to let him in to the house again.”

What a cow! It seems as if wives can be real monsters sometimes. Consider another example of the elderly couple who were talking one evening:

The husband lowered his newspaper and said to his wife: “Honey, I’m so sorry that I let out my anger at you so often. How do you manage to stay so calm with my foul moods?”

“I always go and clean the toilet when that happens,” she replied, not even looking up from her knitting.

“And that helps,” he asked rather perplexed.

She put down her knitting, turned to him, smiled sweetly and said: “Yes, because I use your toothbrush when I do it.”

Yep, wives are really depicted as monsters. No wonder they are at the receiving end of so many niggles, needles and not-so-nice jokes.

I always wondered what the poor damsels did to deserve this dark mantle, until one day at a wedding some years back. It had been a beautiful wedding, the venue, the atmosphere and the service in the chapel was top-drawer; and now time had passed, the late afternoon had bowed to sunset and it was now THAT time during the reception.

The children were on the dance floor showing the adults how it should have been done; many of the adults who remained on the dance floor were properly pickled.

One or two women – in-between slipping some snacks wrapped in serviettes into their handbags – were looking for their husbands.

Little did they know that their husbands had passed out amongst the potted plants outside.

I had gone out to get a breath of fresh air and found myself within earshot of the groom and a group of his friends. What I heard him say made my blood run cold.

This brand new husband, with around three-hours worth of marriage experience, was telling his friends that this woman with whom he had tied the knot would have to know her place if she knew what’s good for her. He went on to tell, and entertain his friends, some crude and downright disrespectful jokes about his wife.

I could not believe that a man could say such things about a woman, any woman, let alone his wife. These days whenever I see them together I cannot help but wonder what goes on behind closed doors or whether he was just joking.

Recently I read that domestic violence is the greatest single cause of injury among women in the United States, accounting for more emergency room visits than traffic accidents, muggings, and rape combined. I wonder what it’s like in our fair country.

You see, historically abuse has been defined as being physically beaten up, and until recently nothing has been said about other forms of abuse – emotional abuse for example, to name but one of several.

Imagine a man who is cruel and vindictive in his home, who constantly scowls, scolds, broods and berates, but when friends come over or when they are in company he demands that his family put on a smiling face to show that everything is fine at home, or else

When a wife or a family has to pretend they’re happy even when they are in pain, that is emotional abuse.

Is it any wonder that the woman would let her husband stand outside in the pouring rain or that the other woman would clean the toilet with her husband’s toothbrush.

Sometimes monstrous behaviour by a wife could be a cry for help to be rescued from a monster.